Relax, and Ye Shall Find...

Have you ever looked for something so hard – you swept the floors, lifted couch cushions, shook pillows and ransacked the house – and yet you never found it? If you have, you know how annoying this can be. But on the other hand, have you noticed that at that very moment when you decide to forget about finding that thing you’ve been looking for, you remember exactly where you put it? You walk into the kitchen and find it sitting on the top shelf in the kitchen where no one was bound to find it.

This morning I was trying so hard to remember a song that just refused to come to me. In frustration I gave up and headed out the house. Just as I started the car and pulled away from the parking lot, there it was – loud and clear. The words were still all jumbled together, but it was the song I had been cracking my brains all morning trying to remember. It came to me the moment I decided to relax and just forget about trying to remember.

Sometimes, life requires that we take a step back from trying so hard to make things work, to move things forward and to find things that are probably not ours to find in the present moment. Acknowledging that the time has come to take a step back and relax isn’t always easy because as human-beings we yearn to be in control. We want to wake up knowing what’s going to happen when we step outside and tune up our cars. The car better start, there’s no question about that. We want to know that when we communicate with others throughout our day, that we are going to get the responses we want to hear and that the people we communicate with are going to react to us a certain way because we have worked so hard to earn their favorable responses.

Today, maybe it’s time to just forget where you put that thing you’ve been looking for all morning. It’s time to stop needing so much to be in control and let go – relax! Just when you forget all about what you’re looking for, what you want, what you think you need, and relax, watch and see what happens. It will come to you without the added effort of trying so hard:-).